My gynecology colleague had a friend who was also married, but didn’t have kids, and she said “you could just go out and have sex and make babies.”
I’m like, “Why?
It was a weird moment for me because I’m not into sex.
When you go to a sex clinic, you’re not asking them about sex.
You’re asking about fertility treatments and they can’t tell you what you’re about to do, so you’re basically not able to talk to your gynecologists about that, because you’re in a different country.
You don’t know what the doctor is going to do to you.
If I was at my house, I’d just tell them what I’m going to say to them, “You know, I’ve had a vasectomy, you know, you want me to put a condom on you?”
It’s just so alienating to them.
There are so many things that are going on in your life that they don’t understand.
And they don’s have the information to be able to tell you about them.
So I was really curious how I could tell my gynecological friend that.
So, I called her up and she was like, ‘Well, I don’t think that’s going to help much.
You need to talk with a different doctor about it.’
I was like ‘No, that’s not going to be good for me.
You should be going home right now.’
She was like [exasperated] ‘What?
Are you serious?’
And I was trying to get her to go home, but she’s like, [expletive] ‘I’m not going.
I’m really sorry, I’ll see you at my appointment, I really won’t be able,’ and she leaves.
I was very upset.
I went to a different hospital, and I didn’t want to come back.
It’s not good for my mental health.
So at the end of the day, it was just like, what should I do?
I’ve got this friend and I’m worried about her.
I just wanted to be a voice for people like that.